Let's start with my most recent encounter. We will call him Army-guy. Now I met Army-guy back in September. We met on a dating site, we went out a few times. We did 'the naughty' a few times, then he made a dickhead move. One night he said to me, "I think it would be really fun if you had sex with me and my friend." Now my profile on the dating site is really clear as to what I am looking for. Really, really clear. I looked at him and said, "really?" Then I walked away, that was it.
Now fast forward, suddenly I hear from this guy again. The first thing he writes to me is. "I'm so so sorry, I really fucked up." So me being the person that I am says, "Everyone makes mistakes, it's okay." He says, "Can we talk on the phone and catch up?" I said, "sure." So we talked on the phone for awhile, caught up a bit. Supposedly he had just got back from a few months in the army. Now he was done with his time and out. According to him I had crossed his mind quite a few times. He really, really wanted to spend time with me. .......Exact words "I want to treat you like a queen. I want to do anything to make you happy." ... Now honestly that is what every woman would like to hear. But a lot of us women hear alarms when a guy says that. Why, because men are dicks. Now I'm not a stupid woman, and I am questioning this guy's motives. A lot of my responses are, 'uh huh', 'okay', 'we'll see'. Why? Because I don't entirely believe him. So two days later he calls me and says, 'I really want to come over and spend time with you. Watch a movie, whatever.' I say 'okay.' He comes over, we laugh, we talk, we ended up doing 'the naughty.' We cuddle, he leaves.

I wake up today to a message from a number I don't know saying "Did you fuck Army-guy last night?" I said, "who the hell is this?" The number says, "his fiance" BUM BUM BUM. I say, "I'm sorry, yes I did. I didn't know he had a girlfriend, let alone a fiance." Then the text messages continue throughout the day from her. Now I'm not angry with her, why would I be? I've been her. Poor, poor girl. She wasn't mad at me either. In fact I feel bad for her. She has told me she is stuck for another 6 months in a lease with him and she is horribly in debt because of his bullshit. I told her to run as fast as she can before it gets worse. No one deserves that, I don't care what his side of the story is, asshole.